Is love painful?

Have you ever thought why when we love, there’s some sorrow? It may sound paradoxical, right? Well, apparently, it is not! Love and sorrow come together as a double deal at the same price.

I thought about this subject because of what a friend told me this morning: “how come to love we must always suffer?”

I was reflecting on this matter and there are 2 points under consideration:

• Firstly, we may suffer when the love we purse is real and pure. On the way many difficulties will arise, but that’s a good sign! If this love is valuable, for sure the “enemy” as well as some evil-doers will try to step on our way to avoid us to reach our goal. Perseverance, as I stated in another post, it’s a matter of moving on day by day and getting better a bit more each day. It may be tough, but as many say: “no pain, no gain”. But there is something else to emphasize: despite the difficulties, the pain or suffering is always accompanied by inner peace and self-satisfaction because we are accomplishing God’s will.


• Secondly, we may suffer when the desired love is selfish. What do I mean by this? Well, as simple as this: when we want something to satisfy our pride or our emptiness, then is when love turns out to be evil. I’m not saying that love can be evil at times. Love is always good, because the fountain of love is God, who is virtue himself. But love in human hands can be wrong when it serves to our own pleasure and not with a desire of self-giving or with a generous spirit. That’s the reason why sometimes, love seems to be so painful. However, the suffering in this case is full of anguish, bitterness and even hopeless.

Loving is a task to be performed and perfected as time goes by. No one knows how to love, but we all have the potential to do so. We are sons of the most pure Love; therefore, our nature is already positively affected by it. Let’s strive for love, and let love to transform us.

Striving for love,

AG